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My Spiel On Positivity Type Quotes

on November 29, 2017

I have nothing against positivity quotes that get sent my way on Whats App. It is just my humor bone taking a poke on it and so, here is my spiel on debunking positivity quotes.

Look Forward, Don’t Look Back

Most of my experience gained (*good or bad ones) is from experience. This means from the past and if I do not look back at my experience gained, how can I improve?

My past creates or develops my present day self and as I evolve mentally, my current thoughts are hinged on the past.

If I keep looking forward, I lose touch with reality and all the “isms” of life. My life has not been the best, neither is it the worst when compared to those without shoes on feet, roof over heads or having stomachs filled with hunger.

I remember what it was like to be hungry. That experience I felt has today given me empathy and compassion for those without food. My mum has always been generous with food to strangers. I like what she does. Sadly this is not what my sister believes in. She tends to be stingy with food and I remember once whilst visiting her home in a country she was based, I had to fork out a lot of cash before she will ask her domestic helper to provide food for mum and I when we visited. In this less developed country, we could not travel as we wish , nor eat where we liked. I learnt this bad lesson from her and will not do it to anyone one, much less family.

Things Happen For A Reason

Ooh this one gets my goat really!

I have been having things happening to me for a long time and like any positive thinking fella, remind self that things happen for a reason and that things will get better.

Honestly, till now, I do not know the reasoning behind what has been happening to me, other than Shit Happens and Karma is after me.

Forgive & Forget

This one is particular to me as I realise that I can never be pontifed as a Saint of any sort. I cannot forget, much less forgive. Even if I did forgive, I could never forget the bad experience. Each bad experience is like a knife that plunged into my flesh and over time, keloids formed and a massive scar appeared.

I envy those who can truly forgive and forget. They must be people awaiting canonisation or in an era we call “old age!”

Wives whose husbands have cheated on them, find this hardest to forgive and forget. Yes, after marriage counselling, they can forgive in a way but they never forget and if you ever ask such wives, they will share with you how it is never the same again.

I confess that I cannot forget though I may forgive 30% at most.

21 responses to “My Spiel On Positivity Type Quotes

  1. Just saw this one on the web last night.

    “Being positive in a negative situation is a sign of wisdom and character.” – Sandy Mishra

    My version

    Being negative in a positive situation is a sign of sagaciousness and experience.

  2. samanthamurdochblog says:

    Yes..some good points. I have found that I have had to forgive my oldest son for the sake of my own emotional health, although I will never forget what he’s done and all future interaction will be governed by those memories…but I do think that positivity has its place…I find it comforting to think to myself “All things happen for a reason…” 😸💕xxx

  3. scifihammy says:

    Excellent post – I agree with you 🙂

  4. Mr. Mel says:

    Well written post Hugs. Here is my take.

    Look forward never back. Looking forward keep you from seeing the now and this is where forward starts.

    Thing happen for a reason. The majority of things that happen are because we create the opportunity for them to happen. The remainder are opportunities to evolve.

    Forgive and forget. This is a little tougher. Forgiveness is required because one has placed conditions on loving, this lead to the perception that if those conditions are not meant one is hurt. Until one can completely comprehend loving unconditionally (the reason for life) forgive and forget is a necessary tool.

    This is my take and is probably more than you wished to know. 🌺🌹💐

  5. Amy says:

    I don’t think it’s age either. Great post, Garfield. Some of things I forgive and forget, a few I don’t, but I let those bother me…

    • Garfield Hug says:

      It is hard Amy and like you, I do have my challenges in forgiving and forgetting or the other proverbial one that screams ” let it go….” it is just like I finished baking a glorious 10 tier cake, all iced and ready to go and someone comes in and stomps all over it. HA! I wish I had better grasp of forgiving and forgetting. Have a great evening where you are!

  6. Kris says:

    Forgiving isn’t as hard as it used to be. Forgetting is. Although, with one person, that forgiveness turned into not forgetting, but being educated and we are better friends now. Odd.
    Things that happen for a reason suck. Some are pretty logical. If you run with untied shoes, you may fall and break your neck. The whole damn year I’ve been here with mum? not entirely sure on that one….

  7. mistermuse says:

    The guy asking Scotty to “Beam me up” must have landed in Washington DC.

  8. Divyen Gadhavi says:


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